TABLE OF CONTENTS Stuck: By calling the chapter this, I want to address two topics. The first is when the focus of the coaching is the client being stuck in his or her job or life, and the second is what to do when our coaching (which to us seems, of course, brilliant) is somehow leaving the client stuck.
Probably the majority of our clients come to us because they feel stuck in their life. Of course, the word stuck describes a wide variety of phenomena. Clients can mean that they are bored, not learning anything, and don t see a future for themselves. They could also mean that they are attempting to accomplish something and can t get it to happen. Alternately, they might mean they are seeing the same cycles of behavior return again and again, at their work or in their relationships or in how they take care of themselves. It is even used to describe existential dread or angst, the experience when clients feel no grounding or support or meaning in their life.
Our initial questioning will quickly clarify for us what the client means. The central distinction with clients who report that they are stuck is the same, regardless of the content of the experience. My feeling is that they all share a common root. The root is feeling unheld by the world. By this I mean that they do not feel in their body and consequently in their emotions and thinking that they have a place in the...
